Summary
Sermon: Love and Submission Colossians 3:18-25
Our relationships inside our home should be filled with love and submission. Paul goes over these requirements in this section.
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By: Bryan Walker Given on: 12/31/2017 Sermon plays on KWHW 93.5 FM on: 1/14/2018
Notes:
Colossians 3:18-25 ESV
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- How shall we live as Christians?
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- – Review put off and put on…
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- How shall we live as Christians?
Colossians 3:8 ESV
Colossians 3:12-13 ESV
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- Paul discusses our family relationship and other relationships
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- Wife, Husbands, Children, Bondservants (employees and employers)
- Parallel verses in Ephesians 5:22-33
- Paul starts with the wife in both cases, why???
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- Immediately he follows up with the husband
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- How many husbands stop reading at verse 18?
- How many wives start reading at verse 19?
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- Never really good at memorization but… verse 18
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- I eventually learned Ephesians 5:25
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- Not saying I am an expert, I fall way short
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- I eventually learned Ephesians 5:25
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- Paul discusses our family relationship and other relationships
Ephesians 5:25
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- I also learned, the law does not change anyone
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- Laws tend to harden the heart
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- Law causes rebellion
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- A new heart is needed, – a new approach through love
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- FOCUS on your part
- Really? You mastered your part so you moved on to your spouse’s part?
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- The UNWISE start with the other half first
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- Never said I was smart
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- The UNWISE start with the other half first
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- Laws tend to harden the heart
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- Wife says, I will make him love me as Christ loved the Church???
- Husband says, I will make her submit as she should to the Lord???
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- How’s that working for you?
- Yes, lay down the law, who needs grace?
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- Well… we all need grace
- The law causes rebellion
- Grace causes love
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- If we are to forgive brothers and sisters, how much more our own spouse.
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- We are one flesh in marriage
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- Quote: If they’re breathing, your mate will eventually offend you.
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- Good discussion on forgiveness – Wednesday
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- I also learned, the law does not change anyone
Luke 11:4 ESV
Luke 17:3-4 ESV
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- How much more your spouse?
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- Many are a preacher of forgiveness outside the home
- But, how many harbor un-forgiveness inside the home
- Say 100 Christians discuss forgiveness
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- Let’s say 50% / 50 problem, no problem
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- How many of them harbor un-forgiveness at home?
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- What if God said, “Remember when…?”
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- How many of them harbor un-forgiveness at home?
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- Let’s say 50% / 50 problem, no problem
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- How much more your spouse?
Psalms 103:12 ESV
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- Christ set an example for us in the trinity
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- He submitted himself to the will of The Father
- Without this submission, we would have no hope
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- Would Christ say, “you fulfil your part and then I will”
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- If you submit I would love you as Christ
- If you love me as Christ, then I would submit
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- Stalemate
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- Would Christ say, “you fulfil your part and then I will”
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- Christ’s submission to the father
- Christs Love for His church
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- From glory with the father to a manger and then the cross
- Christ is exalted above all, at the right hand of God
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- This is why you submit as to the Lord
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- Christ set an example for us in the trinity
Ephesians 5:22-23 ESV
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- Men, did the Church deserve love?
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- What did sinners do to earn love?
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- Men, did the Church deserve love?
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- This means putting your needs last
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- This means you wife before your life
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- What’s in it for me?
- What can I get if I do?
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- This means you wife before your life
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- This means putting your needs last
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- Not an abuse of power, but in love
- Do you ever notice how we complement each other?
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- How much we rely on the strengths of each other?
- How much (most men) need a wife
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Genesis 2:18 ESV
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- The text says, helper, not servant
- Who married a momma’s boy?
- How many moms are still trying to be a mom to a grown man?
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- When a man marries, he is to cling to his wife, not his mom
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Genesis 2:23-24 ESV
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- Woman was formed from man, thus man is lacking something the woman has
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- This is to show the reunification of the body in marriage
- Loving your wife is loving your own body
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Ephesians 5:33
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- Worldly advice vs. Biblical advice
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- Sometimes the best way to address a problem is to just walk away from it
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- Repent and ask forgiveness
- Ephesians 4:26-27 ESV Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, (27) and give no opportunity to the devil.
- The devil would love to destroy the family
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- Actively engaged and doing very well
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2. Foster relationships outside your marriage.
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- Huge alert signals???
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- Can be extremely dangerous
- Who is number 1?
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- What types of relationships?
- Young men are to be mentored by Godly men
- Same with women
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- Huge alert signals???
Titus 2:3-4 ESV
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- So wives are to submit, and husbands are to love
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- Wives are not called to submit to any other man
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- Respectful and decent but not submission
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- Men are not called to love another like he does his wife
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- This is clearly a special love
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- Wives are not called to submit to any other man
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- Christ loves his church in a special way
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- He does not love any other in the same way
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- Just like you are not to love another
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- The word beloved clearly teaches a special love
- He does not love any other in the same way
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- So wives are to submit, and husbands are to love
The relationship in the trinity
Mar_1:11 And a voice came from heaven, “You are my beloved Son; with you I am well pleased.”
The relationship between Christ and the Church
Rom_9:25 As indeed he says in Hosea, “Those who were not my people I will call ‘my people,’ and her who was not beloved I will call ‘beloved.’”
The relationship between a husband and a wife
Ecclesiastes 9:9 NASB Enjoy life with the woman whom you love all the days of your fleeting life which He has given to you under the sun; for this is your reward in life and in your toil in which you have labored under the sun.
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- Do you view your wife as a gift from God?
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(20) Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.
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- Petty simple, obey or don’t obey
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- If obeying this pleases the lord
- Disobeying does not please the Lord
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- Petty simple, obey or don’t obey
John McArthur: The only limit on a child’s obedience is when parents demand something contrary to God’s Word.
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- Setting a bedtime and curfews is not contrary
- Doing household chores is not contrary and so on…
- Raising boys or men
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- If you can’t take care of yourself, how can you provide for my daughter?
- Do you live at home without contributing?
- Do you pay all of your own bills?
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- Cell phone, car insurance, gas…
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- Parents and grandparents should be raising men not boys
2 Thessalonians 3:10-12 NASB
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Ephesians 6:4 NASB
Do not place unreasonable demands and constrictions that might drive your children to anger, despair, and resentment.
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- Laws are good but also consider grace
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- Raise children so they won’t want to disappoint you
- We want to obey Christ
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- Flip side
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- But all of the other kids…
- All of the worldly kids?
- Maintain Biblical standards of discipline
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- If the Bible forbids it, it is forbidden in the home
- Are you providing a place or funds for sin?
- Do not allow your home to be a haven for sin
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- Laws are good but also consider grace
Lastly the employee and employer relationship
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- The Christian does not fake obedience
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- If you are scheduled to work 8 hours, work all 8
- If you do a job, do it to the best of your ability
- Can the employer tell the difference between the Christian and the non-Christian?
- Are you loyal to the ones appointed over you?
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- But my boss is mean (My boss is AWESOME)
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- Keep this in mind: You are serving the Lord Christ.
- Your pay is too low?
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- Can you ask for a raise?
- However, your reward for mistreatment and under pay comes from the Lord
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- If you are mistreated:
- The Christian does not fake obedience
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- I believe this verse’s immediate application is both: The evil business owner & the evil worker
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- There is a day for justice
- God is a just judge
- He will not let the guilty go free
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- Getting away with more and more…
- No one knows…
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- One could also argue from scripture
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- The non-submissive wife
- The un-loving husband
- The disobedient children
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- Will be judged, unless they repent and ask forgiveness
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- I believe this verse’s immediate application is both: The evil business owner & the evil worker
How will you live your life?
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- Has Christ forgiven you, then forgive your spouse
- Has Christ loved you, then love your wife
- Will you submit unto Christ then submit unto your husband?
- Children do you want to please the Lord, Obey your parents
- Bosses, is Christ gracious towards you, treat your employees the same
- Employees if you have unjust boss,
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- a not so loving husband,
- a provoking father,
- a rebellious wife, your reward is in Christ
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- Their reward will be judgment
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- Forgot one
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- Employers if you have a lazy worker
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Fire them
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