Sermon: Love and Submission Colossians 3:18-25

Sermon: Love and Submission  Colossians 3:18-25

Our relationships inside our home should be filled with love and submission. Paul goes over these requirements in this section.

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 By: Bryan Walker Given on: 12/31/2017  Sermon plays on KWHW 93.5 FM on: 1/14/2018

 

Notes:

 

• • How shall we live as Christians?
    • •  – Review put off and put on…

• • Paul discusses our family relationship and other relationships
    • • Wife, Husbands, Children, Bondservants (employees and employers)
      • Parallel verses in Ephesians 5:22-33
      • Paul starts with the wife in both cases, why???
        • • Immediately he follows up with the husband
      • How many husbands stop reading at verse 18?
      • How many wives start reading at verse 19?
  • Never really good at memorization but… verse 18
    • • I eventually learned Ephesians 5:25
        • • Not saying I am an expert, I fall way short

• • I also learned, the law does not change anyone
    • • Laws tend to harden the heart
        • • Law causes rebellion
      • A new heart is needed, – a new approach through love
        • • FOCUS on your part
          • Really? You mastered your part so you moved on to your spouse’s part?
            • • The UNWISE start with the other half first
                • • Never said I was smart
  • Wife says, I will make him love me as Christ loved the Church???
  • Husband says, I will make her submit as she should to the Lord???
    • • How’s that working for you?
      • Yes, lay down the law, who needs grace?
        • • Well… we all need grace
          • The law causes rebellion
          • Grace causes love
  • If we are to forgive brothers and sisters, how much more our own spouse.
    • • We are one flesh in marriage
  • Quote: If they’re breathing, your mate will eventually offend you.
    • • • • Good discussion on forgiveness – Wednesday

• • How much more your spouse?
    • • Many are a preacher of forgiveness outside the home
      • But, how many harbor un-forgiveness inside the home
      • Say 100 Christians discuss forgiveness
        • • Let’s say 50% / 50 problem, no problem
            • • How many of them harbor un-forgiveness at home?
                • • What if God said, “Remember when…?”

• • Christ set an example for us in the trinity
    • • He submitted himself to the will of The Father
      • Without this submission, we would have no hope
        • • Would Christ say, “you fulfil your part and then I will”
            • • If you submit I would love you as Christ
              • If you love me as Christ, then I would submit
                • • Stalemate
      • Christ’s submission to the father
      • Christs Love for His church
        • • From glory with the father to a manger and then the cross
          • Christ is exalted above all, at the right hand of God
            • • This is why you submit as to the Lord

• • Men, did the Church deserve love?
    • • What did sinners do to earn love?

• • This means putting your needs last
    • • This means you wife before your life
        • • What’s in it for me?
          • What can I get if I do?

• • Not an abuse of power, but in love
  • Do you ever notice how we complement each other?
    • • How much we rely on the strengths of each other?
      • How much (most men) need a wife

• • The text says, helper, not servant
  • Who married a momma’s boy?
  • How many moms are still trying to be a mom to a grown man?
    • • When a man marries, he is to cling to his wife, not his mom

• • • • Woman was formed from man, thus man is lacking something the woman has
  • This is to show the reunification of the body in marriage
  • Loving your wife is loving your own body

• • Worldly advice vs. Biblical advice

1. 1. Sometimes the best way to address a problem is to just walk away from it

• • Repent and ask forgiveness
  • Ephesians 4:26-27 ESV  Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger,  (27)  and give no opportunity to the devil.
  • The devil would love to destroy the family
    • • Actively engaged and doing very well

2. Foster relationships outside your marriage.

• • Huge alert signals???
    • • • • Can be extremely dangerous
          • Who is number 1?
      • What types of relationships?
      • Young men are to be mentored by Godly men
      • Same with women

• • So wives are to submit, and husbands are to love
    • • Wives are not called to submit to any other man
        • • Respectful and decent but not submission
      • Men are not called to love another like he does his wife
        • • This is clearly a special love
  • Christ loves his church in a special way
    • • He does not love any other in the same way
        • • Just like you are not to love another
      • The word beloved clearly teaches a special love

• • Do you view your wife as a gift from God?

• • Petty simple, obey or don’t obey
    • • If obeying this pleases the lord
      • Disobeying does not please the Lord

• • Setting a bedtime and curfews is not contrary
  • Doing household chores is not contrary and so on…
  • Raising boys or men
    • • If you can’t take care of yourself, how can you provide for my daughter?
      • Do you live at home without contributing?
      • Do you pay all of your own bills?
        • • Cell phone, car insurance, gas…
  • Parents and grandparents should be raising men not boys

• • Laws are good but also consider grace
    • • Raise children so they won’t want to disappoint you
      • We want to obey Christ
  • Flip side
    • • But all of the other kids…
      • All of the worldly kids?
      • Maintain Biblical standards of discipline
        • • If the Bible forbids it, it is forbidden in the home
          • Are you providing a place or funds for sin?
          • Do not allow your home to be a haven for sin

• • The Christian does not fake obedience
    • • If you are scheduled to work 8 hours, work all 8
      • If you do a job, do it to the best of your ability
      • Can the employer tell the difference between the Christian and the non-Christian?
      • Are you loyal to the ones appointed over you?
  • But my boss is mean (My boss is AWESOME)
    • • Keep this in mind:  You are serving the Lord Christ.
      • Your pay is too low?
        • • Can you ask for a raise?
          • However, your reward for mistreatment and under pay comes from the Lord
  • If you are mistreated:

• • I believe this verse’s immediate application is both:  The evil business owner & the evil worker
    • • There is a day for justice
      • God is a just judge
      • He will not let the guilty go free
        • • Getting away with more and more…
          • No one knows…
  • One could also argue from scripture
    • • The non-submissive wife
      • The un-loving husband
      • The disobedient children
        • • Will be judged, unless they repent and ask forgiveness

• • Has Christ forgiven you, then forgive your spouse
  • Has Christ loved you, then love your wife
  • Will you submit unto Christ then submit unto your husband?
  • Children do you want to please the Lord, Obey your parents
  • Bosses, is Christ gracious towards you, treat your employees the same
  • Employees if you have unjust boss,
    • • a not so loving husband,
      • a provoking father,
      • a rebellious wife, your reward is in Christ
        • • Their reward will be judgment
  • Forgot one
    • • Employers if you have a lazy worker