Sermon: Love and Submission Colossians 3:18-25

December 31, 2017


Sermon: Love and Submission  Colossians 3:18-25
Our relationships inside our home should be filled with love and submission. Paul goes over these requirements in this section.
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 By: Bryan Walker Given on: 12/31/2017  Sermon plays on KWHW 93.5 FM on: 1/14/2018
Colossians 3:18-25 ESV  
    • How shall we live as Christians?
        •  – Review put off and put on…
Colossians 3:8 ESV  
Colossians 3:12-13 ESV  
    • Paul discusses our family relationship and other relationships
        • Wife, Husbands, Children, Bondservants (employees and employers)
        • Parallel verses in Ephesians 5:22-33
        • Paul starts with the wife in both cases, why???
            • Immediately he follows up with the husband
        • How many husbands stop reading at verse 18?
        • How many wives start reading at verse 19?
    • Never really good at memorization but… verse 18
        • I eventually learned Ephesians 5:25
            • Not saying I am an expert, I fall way short
Ephesians 5:25
    • I also learned, the law does not change anyone
        • Laws tend to harden the heart
            • Law causes rebellion
        • A new heart is needed, – a new approach through love
            • FOCUS on your part
            • Really? You mastered your part so you moved on to your spouse’s part?
                • The UNWISE start with the other half first
                    • Never said I was smart
    • Wife says, I will make him love me as Christ loved the Church???
    • Husband says, I will make her submit as she should to the Lord???
        • How’s that working for you?
        • Yes, lay down the law, who needs grace?
            • Well… we all need grace
            • The law causes rebellion
            • Grace causes love
    • If we are to forgive brothers and sisters, how much more our own spouse.
        • We are one flesh in marriage
    • Quote: If they’re breathing, your mate will eventually offend you.
            • Good discussion on forgiveness – Wednesday
Luke 11:4 ESV  
Luke 17:3-4 ESV  
    • How much more your spouse?
        • Many are a preacher of forgiveness outside the home
        • But, how many harbor un-forgiveness inside the home
        • Say 100 Christians discuss forgiveness
            • Let’s say 50% / 50 problem, no problem
                • How many of them harbor un-forgiveness at home?
                    • What if God said, “Remember when…?”
Psalms 103:12 ESV  
    • Christ set an example for us in the trinity
        • He submitted himself to the will of The Father
        • Without this submission, we would have no hope
            • Would Christ say, “you fulfil your part and then I will”
                • If you submit I would love you as Christ
                • If you love me as Christ, then I would submit
                    • Stalemate
        • Christ’s submission to the father
        • Christs Love for His church
            • From glory with the father to a manger and then the cross
            • Christ is exalted above all, at the right hand of God
                • This is why you submit as to the Lord
Ephesians 5:22-23 ESV  
    • Men, did the Church deserve love?
        • What did sinners do to earn love?
    • This means putting your needs last
        • This means you wife before your life
            • What’s in it for me?
            • What can I get if I do?
    • Not an abuse of power, but in love
    • Do you ever notice how we complement each other?
        • How much we rely on the strengths of each other?
        • How much (most men) need a wife
Genesis 2:18 ESV  
    • The text says, helper, not servant
    • Who married a momma’s boy?
    • How many moms are still trying to be a mom to a grown man?
        • When a man marries, he is to cling to his wife, not his mom
Genesis 2:23-24 ESV  
        • Woman was formed from man, thus man is lacking something the woman has
    • This is to show the reunification of the body in marriage
    • Loving your wife is loving your own body
Ephesians 5:33  
    • Worldly advice vs. Biblical advice
    1. Sometimes the best way to address a problem is to just walk away from it
    • Repent and ask forgiveness
    • Ephesians 4:26-27 ESV  Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger,  (27)  and give no opportunity to the devil.
    • The devil would love to destroy the family
        • Actively engaged and doing very well
2. Foster relationships outside your marriage.
    • Huge alert signals???
            • Can be extremely dangerous
            • Who is number 1?
        • What types of relationships?
        • Young men are to be mentored by Godly men
        • Same with women
Titus 2:3-4 ESV  
    • So wives are to submit, and husbands are to love
        • Wives are not called to submit to any other man
            • Respectful and decent but not submission
        • Men are not called to love another like he does his wife
            • This is clearly a special love
    • Christ loves his church in a special way
        • He does not love any other in the same way
            • Just like you are not to love another
        • The word beloved clearly teaches a special love
The relationship in the trinity
Mar_1:11  And a voice came from heaven, “You are my beloved Son; with you I am well pleased.”
The relationship between Christ and the Church
Rom_9:25  As indeed he says in Hosea, “Those who were not my people I will call ‘my people,’ and her who was not beloved I will call ‘beloved.’”
The relationship between a husband and a wife
Ecclesiastes 9:9 NASB  Enjoy life with the woman whom you love all the days of your fleeting life which He has given to you under the sun; for this is your reward in life and in your toil in which you have labored under the sun.
    • Do you view your wife as a gift from God?
(20)  Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.
    • Petty simple, obey or don’t obey
        • If obeying this pleases the lord
        • Disobeying does not please the Lord
John McArthur:  The only limit on a child’s obedience is when parents demand something contrary to God’s Word.
    • Setting a bedtime and curfews is not contrary
    • Doing household chores is not contrary and so on…
    • Raising boys or men
        • If you can’t take care of yourself, how can you provide for my daughter?
        • Do you live at home without contributing?
        • Do you pay all of your own bills?
            • Cell phone, car insurance, gas…
    • Parents and grandparents should be raising men not boys
2 Thessalonians 3:10-12 NASB  
Ephesians 6:4 NASB  
Do not place unreasonable demands and constrictions that might drive your children to anger, despair, and resentment.
    • Laws are good but also consider grace
        • Raise children so they won’t want to disappoint you
        • We want to obey Christ
    • Flip side
        • But all of the other kids…
        • All of the worldly kids?
        • Maintain Biblical standards of discipline
            • If the Bible forbids it, it is forbidden in the home
            • Are you providing a place or funds for sin?
            • Do not allow your home to be a haven for sin
Lastly the employee and employer relationship
    • The Christian does not fake obedience
        • If you are scheduled to work 8 hours, work all 8
        • If you do a job, do it to the best of your ability
        • Can the employer tell the difference between the Christian and the non-Christian?
        • Are you loyal to the ones appointed over you?
    • But my boss is mean (My boss is AWESOME)
        • Keep this in mind:  You are serving the Lord Christ.
        • Your pay is too low?
            • Can you ask for a raise?
            • However, your reward for mistreatment and under pay comes from the Lord
    • If you are mistreated:
    • I believe this verse’s immediate application is both:  The evil business owner & the evil worker
        • There is a day for justice
        • God is a just judge
        • He will not let the guilty go free
            • Getting away with more and more…
            • No one knows…
    • One could also argue from scripture
        • The non-submissive wife
        • The un-loving husband
        • The disobedient children
            • Will be judged, unless they repent and ask forgiveness
How will you live your life?
    • Has Christ forgiven you, then forgive your spouse
    • Has Christ loved you, then love your wife
    • Will you submit unto Christ then submit unto your husband?
    • Children do you want to please the Lord, Obey your parents
    • Bosses, is Christ gracious towards you, treat your employees the same
    • Employees if you have unjust boss,
        • a not so loving husband,
        • a provoking father,
        • a rebellious wife, your reward is in Christ
            • Their reward will be judgment
    • Forgot one
        • Employers if you have a lazy worker
Fire them

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